Okay… okay… I know I need to write in my blog! But I have been so behind on writing these past 3 weeks I just wanted to give everyone a quick recap of what I have been up to. Will be uploading photos soon after this weekend, oh and be sure to watch there is some exciting news in the video. Hope you enjoy and thanks for watching!
So it is official, Facebook official that is. Mr. Facebook and I are now in a relationship on Facebook. Even thought we have dated for the past five months we haven’t announced our relationship technically to all my Facebook friends till last night.
It all took place last night when he came over my apartment for dinner. I wanted to do something special for him since he just got a new job. Thus to celebrate I cooked him one of his favorite meals, pot roast. We sat down and had an awesome dinner together (with music in the background, per his suggestion).
I was really excited because I had been wanting to give him this painting of Chicago. And I thought this would be the perfect opportunity to do so. And if you know me, you know I can’t keep gifts very long. I think that is why I’m such a last minute shopper. Anyway, I wanted to surprise him and get it framed. But after running to hobby lobby earlier that day, I found out they didn’t have the frame I wanted in stock. Bummed out… I figured I would have to wait a little longer before I could give it to him.
Now Mr. Facebook has already seen the painting around my apartment because he saw me paint it. But it just so happen last night right after dinner Mr. 
Facebook asked what I was planning to do with the Chicago painting. I just smiled at first because I knew my plans I had to give it to him already. So in the heat of the moment I just blurted out it is for you. Not a very romantic way to give a gift or a painting for that matter. But I was so excited to give it to him and he was already calling me out on it, I just couldn’t help myself. He got this huge grin on his face and expressed how appreciated he was for the gift. The only reason I painted the skyline of Chicago was so I would give it to him. Besides it just wouldn’t feel right giving it to anyone else. I think Chicago holds a certain place in our hearts because that was our first road trip together. When I see that painting it reminds me of what a wonderful time we had.
After cleaning up the dishes together, we sat down to watch a movie on tv and browse the internet on our laptops. Granted normally we never do this but I’m practically glued to my laptop so it doesn’t help things much. To much of my surprise I got a relationship request when I logged in on my Facebook account. At first I had no idea who had just relationship requested me but then I saw it was him. With him looking over my shoulder, he said, “I did that before dinner.” Which my reply was, “Really now.”
I was just one happy girl, all I did was smile like a goof ball and of course I accepted. Seriously why was I so happy about a Facebook relationship request? I mean we had been calling each other bf and gf for a while now but that was to our close friends that we talk to all the time. But I guess now it was just like he was claiming me in the internet world and he didn’t care who knew.
So go tell your friends, family and everyone you know Mr. Facebook & Circle City Girl are officially a “thang.”
Chicago Weekend
Spring is finally here! And to start it off right the 1st weekend of May, Mr. Facebook and I went to Chicago for the weekend to see the Cubs play! I was so excited because I had never been to a cubs game before and I was looking forward to going back to Chicago. I think the last time I had been there was about two years ago for one of my friend’s wedding. The whole weekend was amazing! We had a great time together seeing all the sites and the weather was perfect.
I’m actually really glad we traveled together somewhere. Because traveling with someone you are dating really tells you a lot about their personality. It takes them out of their normal day-to-day living environment and most of the time you can tell how they would naturally handle situations. In the past with some previous relationships I have done this and found out a whole handful of stuff I wasn’t to happy about. But Mr. Facebook passed with flying colors and he was a perfect gentlemen. He not only handled everything well but he was pretty calm. Which is a great plus when your traveling with someone. He made sure not only did we see everything I wanted to see but he made a big effort to make sure I was enjoying myself. Which I think makes me appreciate him even more.
With every day that passes Mr. FB seems to grow on me more and more. I truly enjoy his company and hanging out with him is a ton of fun! From hanging out in a big group to just being with eachother, I haven’t really seen any warning signs that I’m worried about. I’m really happy that he gets along with my friends and I get along with his. And most important is that he comes to church with me! It has been nice to not having to play the dating game with someone for a change.
Golfing Fun
I love the fact Mr. FB can be serious but be silly too. Like yesterday, we went to hit golf balls at the driving range. Well…I take that back, he hit golf balls. While I just was tried to make the ball go somewhere. Haha, but being such a great sport he made it fun and felt natural to laugh and joke with him while we were there. He didn’t try to show me up or anything but I like the way he would sit back and grin at me while I was trying to line up my driver just right. Or he would chuckle when I looked back at him after I would swing and the ball would be still be sitting there. It was cute and put me at ease.
Meet the Parents?
So in two weeks my parents are coming to Circle City and I asked Mr. Facebook if he would meet them. This will be the “real test” because by then we would have been dating about two and a half months. I know to some this might be early but considering the time frame I don’t know when else he would have a change to meet them unless we made a trip to Florida together. It will be interesting to see how he acts around them because up until this point I have only met his sister. However, he did mention that his mom is wondering when we were going to meet, so possibly soon? Even though we haven’t really done any family things yet, I’m not really worried about it because I want him to be ready when he does ask me. There is no point in pushing the subject because it is still early in the relationship and I don’t think it is my place to do so. But hopefully in two weeks when my parents meet him I will have more of a feel for things and be able to tell where our relationship is headed.
Sorry I haven’t been able to write about this past weekend till now but I had a publication for work going to press this morning, so my life has been a little hectic. We ran into a few issues but finally they are all resolved and everything was approved. I can’t wait for this May issue of the Magazine I create to come out, it is a brand new layout and I designed every inch of it. That alone makes me extremely proud of myself (I think I will pat myself on my back).
Anyway, back to my birthday weekend…
Friday:
What a day… working like crazy getting things wrapped up for the weekend, I couldn’t wait to get off work. I just keep watching the clock… oh please hurry! Mr. Facebook planned to pick me up at 5:15pm to take me downtown for my birthday party and if that wasn’t good enough it was beautiful outside. Which finally gave everyone in Circle City the glimpse of spring we have all been waiting for. I was so happy to be getting a short break for the weekend and be able to enjoy the festive events of turning 24.
Arriving at Howl at the Moon, an old piano bar which is famous in Circle City for having awesome live music. I wasn’t sure who was actually going to show up. But low in behold I saw a friendly face as soon as I walked in. Siobhan… you are awesome girl! I was so glad to see you there and I couldn’t thank you enough for the gifts you got me. I loved them! While talking with Siobhan and Mr. FB, people I knew started trickling in. Before I knew it I was catching up with old friends and gabbing away about new things happening in my life.
This was the first time that Mr. FB was being introduced to some of my closest friends and I wasn’t sure how it was going to play out. But much to my delight he was amazing. He not only seem to handle himself very well but he had a way of talking to new people he never met before. Making it look like they could have been good friends chatting. Afterward I got some rave reviews from some of my girl friends, which made me feel much better that they all liked the guy I have been dating. And yes, my friends opinions matter!
I didn’t want the night to end… it was so good just kicking back and laughing with everyone. Just like in the good old college days. I can’t believe it has been two years since I graduated. Jeez… has time flown by or what! As the evening went on so did the fun… except I feel really OLD right now. Because what I’m about to tell you just might blow you away. Even though I was having a blast hanging out I was whipped by 11:30pm. What happening to me staying out all night?!?! I guess this just goes to show I feel my age just a little more each year. So Mr. FB was nice enough to bring me home, which I might add I fell asleep on the car ride back. haha what a big birthday bash I had, the clock strikes 12 and I’m sleeping like a baby. Oh well… nothing wrong with that, at least I know I did have a great time with everyone!
Saturday:
The next morning I was happy that I just popped right out of bed. So I guess it pays not staying out till the wee hours of the morning. Mr. FB asked if I would like to go to get a birthday breakfast at Cafe Patachou. That same cafe that we were suppose to go to on our first date but didn’t get to. Which the food is amazing by the way if you haven’t gone you really should. It was really sweet of him to come take me out for breakfast even though he was coming back later that night to take me out for a birthday dinner! Can you believe that??
After breakfast Mr. FB had to run a couple errands before dinner that night, so I was able to relax for a bit (time just to be me). Which was great since most of the week before I had been working really hard and it was nice just to take a break to chill for a little. It also gave me a chance to catch up with a couple of my best friends and family on the phone. Besides that the rest of the afternoon I was totally shocked at how much people really cared for me. I got flowers delivered to my door, music sent to my e-mail, Facebook messages on my wall and a ton of cards from loved ones and friends in the mail. Not expecting anything, I’m truly blessed to have such wonderful friends and family in my life! It really made my day to get things in the mail.
You know sometimes it is really hard being away from family around holidays and birthdays because you never really have the chance to share those moments with them. And I know for myself I would of loved to have spent the day with all of them for my birthday. It really makes me cherish those moments when I am able to spend time with them even more.
Saturday Night:
Okay now to Saturday night, just what you all have been waiting for right?!?! Mr. Facebook showed up promptly at my doorstep with a present and a dozen white roses in his hand. All dressed up in a nice collar shirt he was so cute because he couldn’t wait for me to open up his gift. Seriously he is spoiling me with roses… (side note: I absolutely LOVE getting flowers) except I don’t always get them. This means his roses were a real treat!
Opening his gift he anxiously waited for me to open the card. I think I was so excited I opened it right away without looking at the front at first and he stopped saying wait don’t you want to read the front?!?! I could tell he spend a lot of time trying to find just the right card. As I read it, I felt just a little emotional because not one guy I have dated has ever gotten me such a sweet card that was this nice. I can count on one hand how many times someone has done this for me before. And to think this is only after dating a month!
The card read as follows…
“Happy Birthday to the one who makes me feel special and important, cared for and HAPPY, excited and content- all at the same time. I’m so glad you’re in my life. Happy Birthday with Love… CCG, I have truly enjoyed every minute we spent together and look forward to a future with you. Happy 24th Birthday! – Mr. Facebook”
I think I read the card at least 100 times after that night… I just totally blown away. Not only did Mr. FB get me beautiful white roses and a birthday card that just wants to melt your heart, he also got me a shirt! What, another thing I was totally surprised about. I pulled out the shirt and not only did I love it but it fit! Now when does that ever happen, seriously?!?! Needless to say I ended up changing so I could wear the shirt he got me to dinner.
For dinner Mr. Facebook took me to Maggiano’s Little Italy… a great Italian food restaurant where again the food is absolutely amazing! I am very blessed to have had such an fantastic day with such an great guy! At the end of our meal, Mr. FB made sure I had cake with a candle to blow out. I really couldn’t have asked for a better birthday, it was more then perfect. After we were done with dinner he asked if I would like to go to a movie… so the night was far from 
over. We end up running to the movie called State of Play. If your looking for a great movie with a lot of unexpected suspense, I recommend it. I love movies like this for some reason… I guess I like the fact that it is unpredictable and I don’t know what is going to happen next.
Thus by the time the movie was over it was 12:30am and my birthday had past. It only took 24 hours to have a birthday come and go and 24 years to get to where my life is today. And I’ve come to the conclusion that I wouldn’t change a thing. I have learned some valuable lessons during my 24 years in this world but I’ve also learned the value of life and what it means to live life to it’s fullest. Gaining that wisdom alone is the best gift I could have ever received.
Hope you enjoyed my long post about my birthday… man, I had a lot to catch you up on!
Tonight is the night for my birthday bash… I’m turning 24 at midnight! The weather is going to be amazing… looks like in the 60s and clear skies which I couldn’t be happier about. We should all have a ton of fun and I’m excited Mr. FB is going to be picking me up to take me to the party after work. We will see how many of my friends can make it out tonight. I’m sad though that my family couldn’t join in the fun, I think that is the biggest downside to living in another state. Boo.
Man, I can’t believe how much time has flown by… I still remember my 16th birthday bash. Wow… that was 8 years ago, okay that is making me feel old. I’ll stop talking about that now. Anyway, I’m sure there will be some fun stories to tell after tonight. Be sure to look for a blog post about my birthday after this weekend.
Lastly, Mr. FB told me last night that he has reservations tomorrow for dinner somewhere… hum I wonder where he is going to take me? hehe… I love surprises! Eeee… Can’t Wait!!!!
…is it forever?
I want to address an issue that not only effects the parties involved but everyone around them. I don’t think these individuals ever consider the people they are impacting with the dangerous decisions they are making. But I know a handful of people who decided it was best to break their marriage vows recently. Granted it hasn’t really hit home for me until now. Just this past Saturday night I found out news from one such couple, we will call Mr. & Mrs. Jingleheimer. I was totally caught off guard when Mr. Jingleheimer told me that his family has been separated for the past couple months. It breaks my heart because I had such great respect for him and his wife. And now they have three boys and two girls that they are dragging into this mess.
After I finished talking to Mr. Jingleheimer I had an overwhelming feeling came over me and I couldn’t help but cry. I’ve know the Jingleheimer family since 5th grade, so to me it was like hearing my parents were separating and on the brink of a divorce. They were so involved in my life growing up and hearing him talk about how they are separated… just crushed me. I think what hurts even more is that I know, they know better! Their marriage was so strong all these years… what made the bomb start ticking ?!?!
I’m pretty sure this is why I get nervous about getting into a relationship. Plus my past experiences with men have not been the greatest (I mean two out of my three boyfriends cheated on me so far). So what makes a good healthy relationship? How do you find someone and know that it will last… are there any guarantees? Probably not, but I know whoever I start dating will have to fight for me just as much as I fight for him. I think the environments we expose ourselves to, play a big role in our relationships today. Society is always telling us we need to focus on numeral uno and if you don’t get what you want then move on. Putting the most value on yourself instead of your family. Which if this is true by any means this method of thinking makes dating impossible… and finding good solid guys that want to work at a relationship seem like a distant notion. It leaves me asking myself is there any hope at all?
Don’t get me wrong there are some really great couples out there, who have some really awesome marriages! But it is really hard to find those couples. And sadly far and few between. With all that being said how do you know that “special someone” is the one you are going to spend the rest of your life with? I know every marriage is no cup of tea but Isn’t your marriage worth fighting for? Isn’t that what you committed to, when you said your vows?
I guess what is so tough for me about this issue is watching some of my close friends and family member’s marriages crumble right before me. The ones I never dreamed of it happening to. Even though they might think they are the only ones being impacted by their decisions, they are wrong. They impact the ones they least suspect.
On Sunday’s I teach a first grade Sunday school class, what a blessing those children have been in my life. They really know how to melt my heart. It has been such a neat experience to be a part of their little worlds each week, even if it is only just an hour. I find it funny that although I’m supposed to be teaching them, they really have been teaching me. Reminding me time and time again what it is like to have a childlike faith.
After class I love watching them get picked up by their parents. They get so excited to show them what they made or tell their parents what they did in class. In more ways than one I find myself wanting to have that. Even though I considered myself blessed with what I do have, I still feel like something is missing. By default, I have such a desire to be in love with the “right guy”. Being able not only to share my life with him, but to build a family with him. It is like I can see it happening but I can’t seem to grasp it. Granted every relationship I’ve had up to this point has been better than the last. However, until the day comes when God blesses me to find such a love, I will have to be content. Having a childlike faith, like the first graders in my Sunday school class.
“I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want.” -Philippians 4:12
After being down in Florida for 11 days I’m back in Circle City now. I apologize for my lack of blogging while I was gone. But it was so good to be home with my family and get to spend time with them. I think what I will miss the most is not being able to say, “I love you” face to face. Saying it over the phone to family is one thing but there is something truly special about being able to say it in person. For years it was something I know I took it for granted. But being home this past Christmas holiday I realized that is what I miss the most about not living there. It makes my eyes water just thinking about it. I was sad to leave everyone last night and I know my parents would have rather me just stay. However, I wasn’t saying goodbye… just I’ll see you later. So in reality it will be good to get life back to normal and have a routine again. Eating Christmas cookies is not part of my normal diet.
Other than that my Christmas holiday was wonderful! So on a different topic are you ready for the New Year ?!?! I’m know I am all geared up for 2009 and can’t wait see what it brings. Granted I know this coming year will bring a lot of struggles, but I’m optimistic. I have a feeling God is going to do some amazing things. Christmas Eve my parent’s pastor Orlando read this verse Isaiah 43:2, “ When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and when you pass through the rivers, they will not sweep over you. When you walk through the fire, you will not be burned; the flames will not set you ablaze.” What an incredible verse isn’t it? It is a great reminder that He will never leave us, no matter what we go through in our lives.
There is a saying I live by that I would like to share with you… Sola Fide. Which in Latin means, “by faith alone”. I came across the saying Sola Fide about a two years ago, it was during my senior year of college. Since then, Sola Fide has become something I strive everyday to live by. Whenever I feel like I can’t make it or things aren’t turning out the way I planned, I just remember by faith alone. God is beyond faithful to us, so why can’t we be that for Him? Letting go of the wheel and trusting God with my life has been one of the hardest things for me to do. Believe me it wasn’t easy, there were so many times I just wanted to sit back in the driver’s seat. But it isn’t about what I want for my life, it is about what He has planned for me. This road I’m traveling has had its fair share of trails but the experience has been amazing. Even though I feel I have grown a ton these past two years, I know I still have much to learn. I wouldn’t have been where I am today without God’s steadfast faithfulness.
Looking back on all that I’ve learned in 2008 and thinking about my 2009 New Year’s resolution… I found myself repeating a simple phrase, “Let go and let God”. I feel like God is tugging at my heart more than ever right now, and He is wanting me to let His love be the reason I wake up, live life and even breathe. So you can say it is more or less a lifetime resolution, but I know it will be a rewarding one to live by.
Well, I better go… but I hope you have a wonderful New Year’s tonight and my prayer for you is that you will experience His faithfulness and steadfast love this year.
“For great is your love, reaching to the heavens; your faithfulness reaches to the skies.” – Psalm 57:10
This past Thursday, I flew down to Florida to be home with the family for Christmas. If you were wondering why I’ve been a little MIA the past couple days, that is the reason. It has been great being back home, I’ve missed everyone so much! But it has also been really hard coming back this year. This town… has so much history for me with my first boyfriend. Just driving around, memories of him start to surface. In one way these memories are nothing more then just that, memories. It is sad I’ve tried to suppress them, it is like trying to let a piece of my childhood go. However in the end I know how my life would have ended up if I had married him. I would have made due, but I would have been unhappy. Knowing that fact alone has made it easier over time to let my ex fade away.
I very hopeful and I know “one day” I will have that happiness I long for. When there isn’t one waking moment I can’t go without thinking about him, where he makes me laugh so hard I’m about to pee my pants and when I wouldn’t want to love anyone else but him. I know he is out there… I’m just waiting for him to come find me. When he does it will be perfect and he will be everything I had hoped for and more. But until that moment, I’m trying so hard to be patient.
Mr. Seattle and I have been talking quite a bit. I believe we have at least text or called almost every day since we had our second date. I’m really appreciating the friendship we are starting to build and I hope that no matter what we will never lose that. Again, I have no idea where things are headed but I’m not trying to let myself worry about it. If it is going to work out it will and if not… well it just wasn’t meant to be. I just know Mr. Seattle has made me so happy lately, I feel like I’m a kid again. I get excited when he calls, I can’t wait to hear about his day and he makes me laugh so much… I really don’t want it to end.
Contemplating what my life could be like one day I’m left a little more confused then I was before. It is never easy trying to figure these things out so I’m left to letting it just play out. It has been humbling to know that sometimes our lives are to big for us to plan out ourselves and that God has been writing long before our existence. I guess you can’t really appreciate a good book for the story if you read the ending first, right? So right now that is where I’m at… trying to be patient, waiting for the “right guy” to come along and not reading the ending of my story before it happens. One day… it will all work out and it will be everything I’ve hoped for.
After a couple hours of waiting my mom just called and said they just finished up with my grandfather’s heart surgery. The doctors ran a test on the growth that they removed and found out it was a benign tumor (which is non-cancerous).The tumor was located on the side of my grandfather’s heart and pieces of it were slowly breaking off. The doctors explained to my mom when a piece of the tumor breaks off, it causes you to have a stroke. Most likely the reason why he had his first stroke a few months ago. The great news is that they got it all removed just as another piece was about to break off! My mom said everyone should be able to see him in just a half an hour. So I just wanted to give everyone the update and thank you for your prayers. We are very blessed they caught the tumor when they did.
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