Swingin’ into Spring

Chicago Weekend
Spring is finally here! And to start it off right the 1st weekend of May, Mr. Facebook and I went to Chicago for the weekend to see the Cubs play! I was so excited because I had never been to a cubs game before and I was looking forward to going back to Chicago. I think the last time I had been there was about two years ago for one of my friend’s wedding. The whole weekend was amazing! We had a great time together seeing all the sites and the weather was perfect.

I’m actually really glad we traveled together somewhere. Because traveling with someone you are dating really tells you a lot about their personality. It takes them out of their normal day-to-day living environment and most of the time you can tell how they would naturally handle situations. In the past with some previous relationships I have done this and found out a whole handful of stuff I wasn’t to happy about. But Mr. Facebook passed with flying colors and he was a perfect gentlemen. He not only handled everything well but he was pretty calm. Which is a great plus when your traveling with someone. He made sure not only did we see everything I wanted to see but he made a big effort to make sure I was enjoying myself. Which I think makes me appreciate him even more.

With every day that passes Mr. FB seems to grow on me more and more. I truly enjoy his company and hanging out with him is a ton of fun! From hanging out in a big group to just being with eachother, I haven’t really seen any warning signs that I’m worried about. I’m really happy that he gets along with my friends and I get along with his. And most important is that he comes to church with me! It has been nice to not having to play the dating game with someone for a change.

Golfing Fun
I love the fact Mr. FB can be serious but be silly too. Like yesterday, we went to hit golf balls at the driving range. Well…I take that back, he hit golf balls. While I just was tried to make the ball go somewhere. Haha, but being such a great sport he made it fun and felt natural to laugh and joke with him while we were there. He didn’t try to show me up or anything but I like the way he would sit back and grin at me while I was trying to line up my driver just right. Or he would chuckle when I looked back at him after I would swing and the ball would be still be sitting there. It was cute and put me at ease.

Meet the Parents?
So in two weeks my parents are coming to Circle City and I asked Mr. Facebook if he would meet them. This will be the “real test” because by then we would have been dating about two and a half months. I know to some this might be early but considering the time frame I don’t know when else he would have a change to meet them unless we made a trip to Florida together. It will be interesting to see how he acts around them because up until this point I have only met his sister. However, he did mention that his mom is wondering when we were going to meet, so possibly soon? Even though we haven’t really done any family things yet, I’m not really worried about it because I want him to be ready when he does ask me. There is no point in pushing the subject because it is still early in the relationship and I don’t think it is my place to do so. But hopefully in two weeks when my parents meet him I will have more of a feel for things and be able to tell where our relationship is headed.

24 hours & 24 years

Sorry I haven’t been able to write about this past weekend till now but I had a publication for work going to press this morning, so my life has been a little hectic. We ran into a few issues but finally they are all resolved and everything was approved. I can’t wait for this May issue of the Magazine I create to come out, it is a brand new layout and I designed every inch of it. That alone makes me extremely proud of myself (I think I will pat myself on my back).

Anyway, back to my birthday weekend…

Friday:
What a day… working like crazy getting things wrapped up for the weekend, I couldn’t wait to get off work. I just keep watching the clock… oh please hurry! Mr. Facebook planned to pick me up at 5:15pm to take me downtown for my birthday party and if that wasn’t good enough it was beautiful outside. Which finally gave everyone in Circle City the glimpse of spring we have all been waiting for. I was so happy to be getting a short break for the weekend and be able to enjoy the festive events of turning 24.

Arriving at Howl at the Moon, an old piano bar which is famous in Circle City for having awesome live music. I wasn’t sure who was actually going to show up. But low in behold I saw a friendly face as soon as I walked in. Siobhan… you are awesome girl! I was so glad to see you there and I couldn’t thank you enough for the gifts you got me. I loved them! While talking with Siobhan and Mr. FB, people I knew started trickling in. Before I knew it I was catching up with old friends and gabbing away about new things happening in my life.

This was the first time that Mr. FB was being introduced to some of my closest friends and I wasn’t sure how it was going to play out. But much to my delight he was amazing. He not only seem to handle himself very well but he had a way of talking to new people he never met before. Making it look like they could have been good friends chatting. Afterward I got some rave reviews from some of my girl friends, which made me feel much better that they all liked the guy I have been dating. And yes, my friends opinions matter!

I didn’t want the night to end… it was so good just kicking back and laughing with everyone. Just like in the good old college days. I can’t believe it has been two years since I graduated. Jeez… has time flown by or what! As the evening went on so did the fun… except I feel really OLD right now. Because what I’m about to tell you just might blow you away. Even though I was having a blast hanging out I was whipped by 11:30pm. What happening to me staying out all night?!?! I guess this just goes to show I feel my age just a little more each year. So Mr. FB was nice enough to bring me home, which I might add I fell asleep on the car ride back. haha what a big birthday bash I had, the clock strikes 12 and I’m sleeping like a baby. Oh well… nothing wrong with that, at least I know I did have a great time with everyone!

Saturday:
The next morning I was happy that I just popped right out of bed. So I guess it pays not staying out till the wee hours of the morning. Mr. FB asked if I would like to go to get a birthday breakfast at Cafe Patachou. That same cafe that we were suppose to go to on our first date but didn’t get to. Which the food is amazing by the way if you haven’t gone you really should. It was really sweet of him to come take me out for breakfast even though he was coming back later that night to take me out for a birthday dinner! Can you believe that??

After breakfast Mr. FB had to run a couple errands before dinner that night, so I was able to relax for a bit (time just to be me). Which was great since most of the week before I had been working really hard and it was nice just to take a break to chill for a little. It also gave me a chance to catch up with a couple of my best friends and family on the phone. Besides that the rest of the afternoon I was totally shocked at how much people really cared for me. I got flowers delivered to my door, music sent to my e-mail, Facebook messages on my wall and a ton of cards from loved ones and friends in the mail. Not expecting anything, I’m truly blessed to have such wonderful friends and family in my life! It really made my day to get things in the mail.

You know sometimes it is really hard being away from family around holidays and birthdays because you never really have the chance to share those moments with them. And I know for myself I would of loved to have spent the day with all of them for my birthday. It really makes me cherish those moments when I am able to spend time with them even more.

Saturday Night:
Okay now to Saturday night, just what you all have been waiting for right?!?! Mr. Facebook showed up promptly at my doorstep with a present and a dozen white roses in his hand. All dressed up in a nice collar shirt he was so cute because he couldn’t wait for me to open up his gift. Seriously he is spoiling me with roses… (side note: I absolutely LOVE getting flowers) except I don’t always get them. This means his roses were a real treat!

Opening his gift he anxiously waited for me to open the card. I think I was so excited I opened it right away without looking at the front at first and he stopped saying wait don’t you want to read the front?!?! I could tell he spend a lot of time trying to find just the right card. As I read it, I felt just a little emotional because not one guy I have dated has ever gotten me such a sweet card that was this nice. I can count on one hand how many times someone has done this for me before. And to think this is only after dating a month!

The card read as follows…

“Happy Birthday to the one who makes me feel special and important, cared for and HAPPY, excited and content- all at the same time. I’m so glad you’re in my life. Happy Birthday with Love… CCG, I have truly enjoyed every minute we spent together and look forward to a future with you. Happy 24th Birthday! – Mr. Facebook”

I think I read the card at least 100 times after that night… I just totally blown away. Not only did Mr. FB get me beautiful white roses and a birthday card that just wants to melt your heart, he also got me a shirt! What, another thing I was totally surprised about. I pulled out the shirt and not only did I love it but it fit! Now when does that ever happen, seriously?!?! Needless to say I ended up changing so I could wear the shirt he got me to dinner.

For dinner Mr. Facebook took me to Maggiano’s Little Italy… a great Italian food restaurant where again the food is absolutely amazing! I am very blessed to have had such an fantastic day with such an great guy! At the end of our meal, Mr. FB made sure I had cake with a candle to blow out. I really couldn’t have asked for a better birthday, it was more then perfect. After we were done with dinner he asked if I would like to go to a movie… so the night was far from over. We end up running to the movie called State of Play. If your looking for a great movie with a lot of unexpected suspense, I recommend it. I love movies like this for some reason… I guess I like the fact that it is unpredictable and I don’t know what is going to happen next.

Thus by the time the movie was over it was 12:30am and my birthday had past. It only took 24 hours to have a birthday come and go and 24 years to get to where my life is today. And I’ve come to the conclusion that I wouldn’t change a thing. I have learned some valuable lessons during my 24 years in this world but I’ve also learned the value of life and what it means to live life to it’s fullest. Gaining that wisdom alone is the best gift I could have ever received.

Hope you enjoyed my long post about my birthday… man, I had a lot to catch you up on!

One week, Three dates

Well… Mr. Facebook and I not only had our 2nd date at Mama Corolla’s this past Friday night but we also went on another date this afternoon to watch the movie Slumdog Millionaire at the theater! Both dates were awesome and went much…much better then the first one! Good thing I didn’t go with my first impression of him. Whoa… wait did I just go on three dates with Mr. Facebook in one week!?!?

Friday night: Mr. Facebook showed up on time and could not have been more of a gentlemen. He held open the car door and was very polite. Paying full attention to me he seemed genuinely interested in who I was and what I was all about. This made the evening conversation effortless and an enjoyment to have. We got the best seat in the whole restaurant right next to the windows. (the main window in the photo above is where we sat) The food was out of this world and I have to say he was absolutely right to say Mama Corolla’s is the best Italian food in Circle City!

After dinner we headed back to my apartment where we popped in the movie Blood Diamonds and had a glass of wine together. It was so nice just to hang out with someone with no expectations. When the movie ended as he was about to leave he gave me not one hug but two! Now I thought this was kind of cute… but kind of made me excited for the next time we might see each other.

Saturday afternoon: he wasted no time to ask if I would like to go to the theater to watch Slumdog Millionare Sunday afternoon. Of course after the good time I had on Friday night, I couldn’t help myself but say yes. Plus I really have been wanting to see this movie since it came out… it has had some rave reviews!

Sunday afternoon: Mr. Facebook and the movie were awesome…I would highly recommend the movie if you haven’t seen it! Again he was a total gentlemen and after the movie was over he asked to hang out for a little. So we just sat around my apartment and talked. We also got out the photo albums and I showed him a bit of my upbringing/family. Which I was pretty impressed he wanted to look at them… this would normally scare most guys.

After we finished my hands were cold, so being a stinker I put it on his face. Shocked at how cold they were he held my hand it between his. Which lead to him holding onto my hand for a while. So I think “officially” we have held hands. haha This all sounds so grade school but actually I really like it. I love that Mr. Facebook isn’t pushing anything and taking things slow. I’m perfectly happy with holding hands right now and I think it is going at a good steady pace.

There is no rush for anything but I am defiantly starting to like where things are headed. I haven’t seen any red flags come up yet so everything is in the clear so far. We will just have to wait and see but as he was leaving today he already asked if we could see each other this week. Man, so in one weeks time I’ve been on three dates with Mr. Facebook and considering my three date rule, I think I’ve made up my mind to let this play out a little longer.

Now if you haven’t heard of me talk about the three date rule that is usually when I make the decision to either continue to see the person or cut it off. It is a usually a good breaking point for me. Giving me enough time to see if I’m interested and if I find I’m not I don’t lead them on. However, right now I’m really interested to see where things could lead with Mr. Facebook. I haven’t been on more than three dates in a long time…so who knows what could happen next.

Relationship Vibes

Relationship vibes… have you every felt them? Have you ever been confused by them? For years guys have been stating girls were the only ones who gave off confusing vibes but the more and more I interact with different guys I’ve realized this is not true by any means. Guys give off just as many confusing relationship vibes as girls do. I actually can’t believe guys can say that they are easy to understand. Because in reality I can not for the life of me figure out what you men want?!?! One minute you are calling me dear, holding my hand, saying I’m amazing… than the next minute you make up excuses, act like you never liked me and you think it is okay to pick up where you left me hanging. Just like the movie “He is just not that into you”…seriously with guys playing these games; how are woman suppose to actually find someone that would like to have a “real relationship”. I’m not trying to be disrespectful towards guys that read this but guys can be such jerks sometimes.

With Valentine’s Day around the corner, even though I’m not in a “relationship”, I can honestly say I’m happy about it. Of course I would love to have someone for Vday but for once I don’t have to worry about buying anyone a card, I don’t have to make googly eyes with anyone across a table and I don’t have to spend countless hours getting ready for the big date. Granted I’m not closing myself off from the world but I don’t have time to play games with guys either. If I’m interested in you, you will know plain and simple. If I feel you are not into me… I move on. There is no reason to whine and gravel over a guy that won’t give you the time of day. If you are experiencing such a guy in your life he is not worth your time, don’t mess with him. I promise you can do better! Be content being just you… it is much more rewarding to do so.

Sorry for that little spat… I really don’t know what that was about. But I thought I would give you an update what is happening with the random guys in my life right now…

I found out Mr. Mansion has been sick the past couple days and I felt really bad for him. So tonight I thought I would bring him a get well bag. Filled with soup, tea, a sandwich from Jimmy John’s, crackers and juice. However, before I brought it down to him I was getting weird vibes through text. It was like he wanted me to come but didn’t. Grr… confusing! Maybe I should stop caring so much but my intentions were good. So I ended up bringing over the get well stuff to his house, which in turn he ended up being very thankful for.  I wonder if it was because he was sick.. but I’m a little confused about the vibes he was giving me this pass weekend compared to the new ones I got from him tonight. They were really different and see this is what I’m talking about. What am I suppose to do with that? I guess we will see how Thursday goes if he ends up coming.

Now on the other hand Mr. Seattle finally got skype working on his new computer. This was unexpected but tonight we talked on skype for over an hour! What, where did that come from ?!?! See I think what catches me off guard the most is that it was just like the first time we talked on skype down in Florida. Sigh, I really like Mr. Seattle… but I don’t want to play games. I know he has been nothing but respectful and just trying to maintain being a friend in my life right now; however it just makes things complicated. Because I can’t see him as “just” a friend. It will be interesting to see if we continue to skype more and if anything comes from that. Deep down if I’m being honest with myself, I still want something to.

Well that is all I have for now… I better get some sleep but I will write soon and let you know how tomorrow goes.

Groundbreaking

What a week this has been!!!! I feel like in the in just the couple days God has placed some amazing job opportunities and people in my life. Granted because I have been so incredibly busy moving forward with my career, I haven’t had a chance to sit down and blog about it. I thought I would just take a few seconds to give an update of how things were going.

The Job Search:
I have two full-time job opportunities that are so much more than I could ever ask for. Ones I did not look for and never dreamed of finding. I know without a doubt that this is God working in my life and wherever He leads me it will be for His glory and not mine. I will be sharing more information about them very soon, but I have to work about the details first. Thank you for being so patient and understanding while I figure this out. It is a really exciting time for me and I’m looking forward to seeing how this turns out.

Dating:
I found out from one of my girlfriends that Mr. Fitness has a baby?!?! And he is trying to move back in with this baby’s mama?!?!? What the heck ?!?! How did he think he could get away with hiding that, seriously. So from that stand point of not being upfront and honest about something that BIG in your life… I’m not about to deal with that. Mr. Fitness is O.U.T. of the picture for good.

Things with Mr. Pepperdine have been going well, we have gone back to just being friends again. He has been a great support through all of the crazy stuff going on in my life right now. I’ve really appreciated his friendship and glad we are communicating again.

After a week or so of being really quite… Mr. Seattle called me two days ago and updated me what was going on in his life. I also found last weekend he was less than a two hour drive away from me and didn’t bother to tell me. My heart sank when I found that out but in reality it wouldn’t of worked out going to see him anyways. Which granted he was here on business but I would of appreciated a call or something saying he was that close. Non the less, I think he is just a little busy at the moment and wrapped up in making his way in the world. I know what he is going through because I’m in the same place right now. So for now I will just sit tight and maybe later something will bloom out of it. But if not at least I know I didn’t invest to much time waiting on him.

In a nut shell things have been off the charts… but I’m really blessed and willing to go where God wants to lead me in my job and relationships. Please keep me in your prayers, for as I’m pretty sure I will be making the one of the biggest decision I have ever made in my life over the next few weeks. This is groundbreaking… and could be the moment that changes my life forever.

Winter Wonderland

After the beautiful Thanksgiving weekend I had down at the cabin, I was plumb tuckered out. Finding myself fast asleep by eight o’clock on a Saturday night! I know what you’re thinking… lame, right? However before going to bed if someone had told me it was going to snow, I don’t know if I would have believed them. Because it had been so warm (the 50’s are considered warm up here) all weekend long and there hadn’t been a cloud in sight. But when I woke up I found myself listening to a slushy sound after cars drove by. Debating with myself for a couple seconds wondering if it was snowed or rained, my curiosity got the best of me. I peeked out the window to find everything was covered in white! What a beautiful and wonderful way to wake up to a winter wonderland… God’s beauty never ceases to amaze me. Just when I thought life couldn’t get any more beautiful, He surprises me. There is just something so special about the first snowfall… it is so crisp, clean and untouched.

“The future lies before you, like paths of pure white snow. Be careful how you tread it, for every step will show.” -unknown